I used to be embarrassed to admit this… but I don’t really have friends right now. And honestly? I’ve finally stopped feeling guilty about it.
This just isn’t my “friend era,” and that’s okay, especially during the holidays, when everyone’s posting matching PJs, Christmas parties, and big cozy gatherings.
Meanwhile, I’m over here doing bedtime, collapsing on the couch, and scrolling past the Friendsgiving photos like, “Ah. Cool. I wish I had a group like that.”
And for a long time, that stung a little extra this time of year. I’d wonder if I was messing up my kids’ social lives or if we were supposed to be doing more: more parties, more traditions, more people.
But here’s what I’ve finally learned: this season of life isn’t a punishment, it’s just a chapter. And it’s okay if your holidays look quieter than everyone else’s.
I may not have a big circle right now, but I do have a few close friends who understand when it takes me two business days to text back. They don’t take it personally, and honestly? That’s enough.
And the truth is, this smaller holiday season has its own sweetness. Every evening snuggled on the couch, every chaotic tree decorating attempt, every little tradition with my boys feels precious. Right now, they are the center of my world, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with pouring into your family more than your social calendar.
So to all my fellow “loner moms” this Christmas:
You’re not weird.
You’re not failing.
You’re not behind.
You’re just in a season that asks more from you than you can give away and that does not make you less than.
Your holiday magic might look simple, quiet, or home centered… but that doesn’t make it any less real. The brunches and girls trips will come back around someday.
And when I do sneak in a lunch date or send off a rare timely text? I cherish it a little extra this time of year.
You’re doing just fine, friend. One imperfect, cozy December at a time. ❤️